Mental and Emotional Support

| January 20, 2017

Survival is a heuristic process of learning what works and what hurts. The goal is to learn enough about what works before what hurts kills you. The key that makes this process work to your advantage is your awareness.

The first thing that hurts is awareness.  One day, something happens and you begin seeing the world as it actually is, not as you were programmed to see it. This awakening completely drops you on your head. The experience is very much like being slapped in the face with a dead salmon. You are left spitting scales and wondering what hit you, but one thing is certain; there is no going back.  After the shock subsides, this is when you begin to wonder, “What is the meaning of all this?”

At the outset of the tribulation, you’ll be dealing with entire communities at this stage in the awareness process, and the worse for them is the fact that they will be facing a clear and present danger.  They will not have the years or decades to work through this adjustment as most in awareness have.  Rather, they must adjust to a brutal, new reality on the fly so to speak.

At the onset of the tribulation, who will adjust faster and who will adjust slower?  Let’s examine that question by comparing a psychologist with an immigrant farm worker.

The Psychologist and Farm Worker

Intellectually, the psychologist has an understanding of what is happening to them as well as to everyone else. However, they’ll likely be struggling to make sense of their own life.  This will entail adjustments in their comfort, their standing in community, and their prestige which are no small things.

Lost is the comfort of a well compensated lifestyle. Meanwhile, the standing of their profession and the prestige of being a person of great value to the community will no longer meet prior expectations.  Instead, all three will be shattered or tattered in this new reality.  On one level there is an intellectual understanding of what is happening and what to do, but on the personal level this knowledge is of marginal benefit in terms of expediting the emotional adjustment to these circumstances.

Now consider the immigrant farm worker.

There is no comfort in picking lettuce, nor is there any prestige.  As for standing, their standing is laboring under a hot sun in a field full of lettuce that needs to be harvested for market.

In other words, adjusting to the new reality of the tribulation for the psychologist will be a lengthy process because the higher you are, the farther you fall. Conversely, for the immigrant farm worker, the tribulation will only be a different shade of difficult.

Or to put it another way, while the psychologist is falling 10 floors to the ground, the immigrant farm worker is walking down the front steps of the very same building.  The tribulation will hit them both with the same dead salmon, and both will be left spitting scales. But those who struggle hardest to survive in today’s world will adapt and rebound the fastest.  Never lose sight of that.  Learn to look into their eyes and listen to how they say their words. Body language is far more reliable than what a person says.

Here is where your years or decades of awareness have prepared you to be that calm eye in the center of a swirling maelstrom.  Your centeredness will be the first thing people recognize and your leadership must anchor that centeredness. They must never see fear in your eyes, but rather, they must see love, compassion, and a dedication to being in service to others.

There is much for you to learn now and once the tribulation begins.  But communication skills and love will always be the constants you must master and hone with every new opportunity.

Interpersonal Communication Skills

As a Survival Wellness Advocate, your role is to help – not to cure. To be effective in your role as a comforter, you must develop strong interpersonal communication skills and patience.

As survival communities come together, it will be during a time that I call the rage.  People will realize how they’ve been setup to fail and they will be angry and distressed by this.  Even at their best, people are argumentative; now many will be at their worst, and they will vent their rage and anger on other members of the community, often without warning.

This is when you will need the knowledge to help members of your community seek solutions without becoming bitterly polarized and how to remain optimistic, calm, and confident.  You need to begin collecting your own library of books, studying interpersonal skills and on top of the stack must be books on how to listen effectively.

The Importance of Listening Skills

After the fall of the Soviet Union, I ran a travel business specializing in individual travel to Russia, and my largest client was the University of California Health Care system.  My firm was used to arrange professional homestays for American doctors in Moscow, Russia; so, they could study what their counterparts were doing.

While the Russian medical system was technology poor, their doctors were far superior to their American counterparts in terms of their patient clinical skills.  Simply put, Russian doctors compensated for their lack of technology by communicating with their patients in ways that many Americans doctors had forgotten and quite frankly envied.

I learned, as the tour operator sending American physicians to Moscow, what made the Russian doctors superior in terms of their patient clinical skills.  They knew how to listen, and here are the four things they simply did which will serve you as well:

First, there is no clipping.  Clipping is when you begin to answer the other person just as they are completing their observation or question.  It’s annoying and rude.

Second, there is no anticipation.  Anticipation is when you begin thinking of how you are going to respond, while the other party is still talking.  Consequently, your response will often demonstrate your lack of attention because of your own distraction.  When it backfires on you, nothing is more insulting than anticipation.

Third, cultivate the pause.  Before responding, the wise always listen patiently, maintain eye contact and pause before responding.  The other party will perceive this behavior as thoughtful contemplation and their anticipation of your response will focus their attention.

And lastly, ask the other party confirming questions such as, “It is important for me to understand you.  Can you tell me if I correctly understand the following…?”  This listening behavior demonstrates a professional attention to details.

And there it is.  The four simple things Russian doctors did with their patients that American doctors spent thousands of dollars with my travel firm to learn.  The point here is that interpersonal communication skills are essential to your success as a survival wellness advocate and you’ll need to school yourself in these skills. However, there is one thing you cannot find in a physicians desktop reference, love.

Love

Your most valuable therapeutic method for survival is love. Yes, love!  According to WebMD, love has the following health benefits:

  • Fewer Doctor’s Visits
  • Less Depression & Substance Abuse
  • Lower Blood Pressure
  • Less Anxiety
  • Natural Pain Control
  • Better Stress Management
  • Fewer Colds
  • Faster Healing
  • A Longer Life
  • A Happier Life

Obviously, this list of benefits is based on living in our current reality and not a tribulation.  So the question then becomes, how can you assist your community in achieving similar benefits with love in the midst of a tribulation?

We could fill entire libraries with books about love.  Love for oneself, romantic love with another and so on. However, in a survival situation there is only one relevant definition for the word love and here it is: “Love is what we do for others.”

Teaching a Positive Model of Love

As a survival wellness advocate, part of your job description is to help reinforce a positive model of love based on this definition, by teaching through repetition, the following three concepts:

  • Service to others.
  • Celebration of noble virtues.
  • Preservation of freedom.

To illustrate the first two concepts, let’s imagine Billy, a young boy in the community is out foraging and comes across a large can of cling peaches. His first impulse may be to hide behind a large boulder and gorge himself.

However, if you have correctly taught Billy about service to others, he will return to the encampment with the peaches so everyone can enjoy a slice or two. At that point, you have a new responsibility, the celebration of noble virtue.

That evening, while everyone is sitting around the campfire, you’ve made sure someone has written a poem or a song about Billy and the peaches.  That night there is a celebration about Billy’s service to others and how he made a noble choice to share the peaches.

Then comes what I believe to be the third and most crucial love concept, the preservation of freedom. If you read my books Being in It for the Species and Surviving the Planet X Tribulation, you’ll learn that the single greatest threat facing humankind after the tribulation will be enslavement.

Just Say No!

Towards the end of the tribulation, the elites that have been stockpiling vast quantities of food, medicines, construction materials, and so forth will come up from their underground bases. They will offer to share what they have with survivors; provided, they agree to their terms which in a word will be slavery.

As a survival wellness advocate, it will be your solemn duty to encourage everyone in the community to “just say no.” If through your years of service you’ve made a positive difference in their lives, you just might make a big difference for all of humankind.


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